Today I am thinking about excuses and so I am going to blog about it; because this is my blog and I can. And this post will not be too long because I just want to vent a bit.

Making excuses not to live, to do, or to be is only going to hurt you more in the long run.  Lately, I have listened to more excuses than I really care to hear. It has been like listening to a bunch of whining 2 year olds.

An excuse is simply a reason for inactivity. If you are an “excuse giver”I think that you need to reach down deep inside to figure out why you make so many excuses because there is something deep down inside of you that does not want to succeed.

If you were around Mom Unplugged on Monday, then you know that Marilynn Griffith stopped by to talk about a chunk of ground beef, social media, and her emotional state while looking for cheese. Reading her post was like drinking a nice refreshing cup of lemonade.

The same rings true for her book, Mom’s The Word. When started reading, I could immediately tell that this was going to be one of those books I would read late into the midnight hour. Trust me when I say that my 10pm bedtime was totally shot. I even read the book while chatting with my husband late one night before bed time.

What attracted me to Mom’s The Word was the parallel between Karol’s life and my own. You see I was the mom who did not want to hear the word that my family seemed to spit out, making it sound more like an annoying scratch across the chalk board. For me the word “mom” did not drip from their lips like honey.

Last night I had another epiphany. I have allowed most of my adult life to be dictated by others. That was shocker for this girl who values keeping it real. Not that I was not keeping things real but I was letting others hold me back from so much.

From my mom to my oldest child to my husband I have let people just take the vibrant life force I once had right out of me. Whether it was something they did or said, I let them dictate. In hindsight I know why.

A lot of my life was violent and confrontational as a child. If it was not the abuse, it was the fighting by some of the adults in my life; or even me fighting to keep someone from hurting me or someone I love. So as I got older I hated confrontation and still do in some ways. But the more I work through authentic living, the easier it gets to deal with things and confront them head on.

I have been online in some capacity since 2000. When I got married in 2002, I found myself online even more because I had become a stay at home mom in a new town with no friends. The internet was way for me to connect to my friends and family back in Los Angeles.

Eventually I started seeking other groups of like-minded individuals and that is how I discovered, that you really can earn an income online. And get this – there were legal ways to do it. I also discovered that I could create a ministry for women much like what I had in Los Angeles, but online. I was in heaven learning all I could to make a difference and a living at the same time. But I made some HUGE mistakes along the way.

You know over the last few days I have been thinking about how I have reached many of dreams in life. That made me not only thank God but ask for forgiveness as well. You see too many times we neglect to see that while it may not have been in way we thought it should, God does and wants to give us the desires of our heart if we diligently seek Him. Last Tuesday I had the privilage to attend an Online Marketing Women Entrpreneur conference. It was small, quaint, and just what I needed to know that I am where I need to be.

I sat back as the women were talking and realized that I have really lived more of my dreams than I thought I had:

• I always wanted to edit and publish my own magazine – I did that from 2005 to 2007.