One thing that I have learned is that when you are clear on your goals, you do not cling to less important priorities. You recognize that, like everyone else, you have limited time, energy and resources. As a result, you learn to let go of the idea that somehow you should be able to do everything.

You learn to keep your focus on your objective, and distribute your time based on three priorities: God, you, and family. You then prioritize and make goals; making sure to give yourself ample space for rest and rejuvenation.

Grabbing as hold to the fat was very important to me, especially in the last few months. I start a path to purposely obey God. Why?

Because obedience is just that – purposeful!

I grew tired of trying to figure it all out on my own and when my business literally came to a standstill, I had to look to God to figure it all out.

For me it was becoming more important for God to come first my life, and to set aside time to let Him nurture me. I was taught years ago about the importance of building an intimate relationship through communing with Him and last summer I became hungry for the time with Him.

I learned that in doing so my family and I were beyond blessed! The more time I gave to God the more my life took on new meaning. The more time I spent with the God the less important making money became. The more time I spent with Him, the more I saw the truth in my dreams.

The more time I spent with the Father, the more my true priorities came into view; not only in my spiritual life but in my personals and business life as well.

• My relaxation activities are important. While they may not seem that critical to others, I know that my level of productivity depends largely on my own opportunities for rest and creative expression, so I have to make those moments a priority in my life as well.
• My time with my husband is necessary. After having the issues we had we have learned to place one another as a high priority on our list. Our conversation has changed, what we say to other and how we say it has changed, and how we support and accept one another has changed as well.
• My time with each of my boys is vital. I have to make time for my boys. One is about to go to college and the other is little boy that folks want to label as different but he is just very very special. Each one needs something particular form me and I have to focus on those needs.
• My business needs my focus. When it is time for work, it is time for work. When you work from home it is easy to mesh work and home into one but the truth is you can’t. I know I mentor on life and business integration but that does not have to do with working from home. It has to do with learning to incorporate a whole living approach to your daily business activities. My focus on business has to occur within scheduled hours for many reasons – one being my sanity. So I do things to make sure it happens. For example I only do consultations Tuesday – Thursday for set amount of time.
• With the rest of my time, I am choosing to engage in activities that help me reach my spiritual, personal and professional goals and let go of everything else. Yes I have time for fun – that’s included in the personal stuff; and even some of the spiritual stuff too. Yep, life with God can be fun

Whether it’s a conference, a date with my husband or my boys, or a bowling night with friends, I have learned, and continue to do so to filter each possible activity and expenditure through my priorities and make my decisions accordingly.

While there are some who do not like it I am clear with others about my priorities and availability. I have learned to let go of all guilt when I choose to decline an activity because I am confident that I have the big picture in mind and I am making a positive choice for the long run.

What about you

1. Are you clear in your own mind about your goals and priorities?
2. Do others understand your goals?
3. Do you need to give up an activity that has been draining your time for no reason?

Talk to me! Let’s discuss priorities and setting healthy boundaries.