Rules of the House And My Mother’s Helper

Posted by LaTara on June 24, 2008

Today I decided to let my so called Mother’s Helper go. It tried to be helpful and I hate the fact that it was my grandchild but sometimes ya gotta do what ya gotta do. Here is the story.

She came to my house on Monday night and asked if she could stay up and watch a movie. I let her do it the first night but told her that after that it is lights out at 11 pm and that was stretching it. An 11 year old child is still growing and needs her rest, even in the summer time.

It was a true headache because my husband misread what was said because my granddaughter was telling only part of her issue with me and telling her momma something else and then me a whole other story. My husband and I had argument because he accused me of one thing when it was really something totally different.

Talk about some childish mess. I was just not having it, so I called her mother. Which she did not want me to do.

After speaking with Kiandre’s mother I realized that the child is just not used to rules. She did not want to go to bed on time or get up early. She wanted to nap when she was supposed to be assisting me with Brehane and I did not allow her to watch gangsta rap videos on the computer. She was also not allowed to text her mother and argue back and forth with her sister on her cell phone. I did not care who paid that darn bill. The child was getting phone calls from her own momma after 11 pm. Sorry, that just does not fly.

I don’t allow it with mine and I will not allow it with anyone else’s child. No matter who it is. My son AJ knows that momma just don’t play like that.

As I spoke with her mother I was informed that when Kiandre is home, she can stay up until all hours of the night, even during the school days as long as she gets up in the morning. I was then informed that Kiandre is not treated like a 11 year old because her mother feels that she is more mature than that and that Kiandre chooses not go over her other Grandma’s house because her grandmother is like my momma older and from the old school. So Kiandre would rather be where she can sit up and watch tv all night and sleep all day.

Not one time did I hear the term “respect the rules of someone else’s home” as I was taught.

What is wrong with this modern parent and wanting to be a friend over raising your child? Sorry I just don’t get it.

I let her mother know that in my home I do have rules and it is not a free for all. I also let her know that I do not appreciate being told untruths from Kiandre just so that she can keep on making money from working for me and yet she tells her granddaddy things that are not exact because she does not want to follow the rules and her mother will not tell her she has to.

So there you have it.

I let her mother know as well as my husband that Kiandre can stay in her home and forget the job with me because this Momma ain’t Burger King and she cannot have it her way. I will not bend my rules because she is used to no rules and is treated like a grown woman by her mother as opposed to an 11 year old child.

Needless to say that I had a monkey wrench thrown into my day.

Do you think I am wrong?

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