Mom Unplugged

The Agreement

Feb 12, 2008 Unplugged Authentcity

Last week was a week from hell for me. On Tuesday I had such a bad day that I finally sought counseling because I felt like I was slipping back into the same deep depression I was in for almost 10 years. Actually my husband was the one who finally listened to me about needing clarification on some things and how I think a counselor would be beneficial in my life.

He has been very supportive and paying close attention to what is going on with me now.

I am not ashamed of needing to seek counseling because to me that is admitting that yes I have issues and no I can’t figure them all out on my own. No to me that is being real!

Over the past few days while plugging away at being mom, wife, entrepreneur, and teacher I realized that I have not exactly done a good job at being me. Sure I have let go of the Supermom Complex, but somewhere in my head I was still not connecting with LaTara. So I am taking some steps to remedy that.

The first thing I did was find a few meet up groups in the area that fit me like a Natural Hair group, a Christian Parenting Group, and even a reading group.

Then I told me husband that once per week I need to get away from the kids. I am always with my boys and that is just not healthy. I love them but I don’t always want to be around them. They have their outlets and it is high time that momma had hers. I have been like a homeschool hermit and it is time for it to stop.

Sure I get out by myself but it is to Target or some appointment.

So As I shared this with my husband I realized it may never happen because right now my oldest son is having some typical teenager issue with his dad and so he can’t be left at home alone. In my head that meant no personal time for me.

Well my husband must have really been freaked out by outburst last week because today he said that one day a week he will stay home or reschedule his day so that I can have some me time. And not just time in the bathroom with the door closed.

When I was a single mom I had me time every week because I had a better support system in Los Angeles than I do here in Chicago. So I am pretty glad that my man decided that he can be my support here while I get out and find me again.

I enjoy going out to eat and to catch a movie by myself. I enjoy going to Borders and perusing the books all day while I drink a cup of tea or decaf. I love going to meet other like minded women and connecting.

So out I venture to a territory I know so well. Thank God for The Agreement, and, oh yeah, the man too!